Wedding Party vs. Couple: Who Pays For What?
You’ve asked your favorite people to stand by your side on your big day. They’ve said yes—yay! After the initial excitement wears off, it’s time to talk finances. You may be confused as to what costs should be covered by the couple, versus what the wedding party should take care of. And while every wedding will be different, this guide will help you get a starting idea.
Keep scrolling for a breakdown of what your wedding party should expect to pay for and what expenses the couple typically takes care of.
What Expenses Should Your Wedding Party Pay For? (within reason)
Being included in a wedding party comes with a lot of responsibility, and the costs can quickly add up. Here’s an idea of what expenses the brides party and the grooms party should expect to cover when they take on the role.
1. The Bridal Shower
Being one of the first events that take place, a bridal shower is number one on my list. Though this isn’t a required event, it’s an incredible way to celebrate a bride before the big day. To help kick off the bride’s engagement season the right way, the brides party typically take on the planning responsibilities.
Not only will they cover the planning, but it’s also customary for them to cover any necessary expenses. We’re talking about decor, food, drinks, and potentially a venue. Though it’s common for bridal parties to take place at the host’s home, that’s not your only option. Pick a local restaurant, winery, or even a nearby park. But keep in mind, choosing a venue like this can add extra costs that brides party will have to absorb.
2. The Bachelor or Bachelorette Party
There are a variety of different events that take place before your big day. The two you’ve probably heard of most are bachelor and bachelorette parties. Though they are the most common, there still tends to be a lot of confusion around who pays for these pre-wedding festivities. With every case being different, I totally understand where the confusion comes from, but I’m here to set the record straight.
While it is pretty standard for each group to cover the bride and groom’s costs, this isn’t always the case. For those planning a costly, far-away celebration, the couple will usually be responsible for covering their own travel costs.
One of my favorite tips to avoid any awkward situations is to send out a Google survey asking your wedding party questions regarding their budget. This gives them a safe space to anonymously share how much money they’re able to spend on a bachelor or bachelorette party.
Photographer : Amanda Coldicutt Photography
3. Their Wedding Day Attire
Your wedding party typically always covers the costs of their wedding day attire. For the grooms party, this could include suits, shoes, and accessories (ties, bow ties, belts, suspenders, and even cufflinks). That’s why the majority will collectively rent their suits to create a cohesive aesthetic and to save money.
Similarly, the brides party will also cover the costs of their of attire which could include suits, dresses, shoes, and accessories. The final price tag will be dependent on the bride’s vision. Maybe the bride is wanting the wedding day crew to rock matching dresses. Maybe they prefer a mix of different dress styles, but of the same color. They could also give their bridesmaids full freedom when it comes to shopping, making for a mix-and-match aesthetic. Keep in mind that getting brand new items could mean alterations need to be done which is another cost your wedding party will have to absorb. Whatever it may be, getting the wedding party involved in picking out their outfits (including different price ranges and having the option to wear something they may already own that fits them comfortably) is always a good idea.
4. Travel Costs and Hotel Accommodations
Just like any other wedding guest, your crew will be in charge of covering their own travel and hotel costs. Now you might be wondering “Jenn, even if you’re planning a destination wedding?!” Yes, this is the case no matter where your wedding takes place. Keep this in mind when your team is also planning the above to be fair with the costs associated.
What Costs Should The Couple Cover?
While your wedding party will be responsible for covering some expenses, they won’t be required to cover them all. Not exactly sure which costs you should account for in your budget? Here are all the things brides and grooms should be covering for their wedding party.
1. Hair And Makeup
If a bride is adamant about their wedding party getting professional hair and makeup done, typically they will cover the costs. Plus, fitting this detail into your budget is such a sweet way to show your appreciation for your wedding day crew and all they have done.
For brides that don't have a preference, leave that decision up to each individual. If any bridesmaids decide to get their hair or makeup professionally done, let them know that they’ll be in charge of covering those costs—including the tip. This is something that needs to be planned far in advance, so make sure to talk with your wedding party early on about what they prefer.
2. Bouquets And Boutonnieres
Newsflash: wedding florals aren’t just used to dress up your ceremony and reception spaces. They can be a subtle, yet show-stopping addition that’ll add personality to your wedding day ensembles. Think bouquets, hair pieces, and boutonnieres. Incorporating similar blooms or greenery, in both your decor and fashion, will beautifully tie together your overall wedding design. If this is what you’re envisioning, you’ll want to rework your budget to include statement floral pieces like this—since this will be a cost the couple will have to cover. Need local florist recommendations, reach out to your wedding planner.
Photographer : Amanda Coldicutt Photography